Friday, May 6, 2011

Whats with this thing called Marriage?

Ok now it's getting too much of a hype about it in my personal life and I needed to pen it down to keep it going easy for me. Pheww...

I am done with my academics, I have had a good work life of 2 years. But now what...? The community that I belong to (the Marwari Community in India) believe in getting girls married once they complete their education. I thank my parents to have given me this bonus of working for two years, but now it seems my freedom is going to be going.

My kins say, I need to get married now. But I am like so mentally unprepared about it.

They keep asking me, what I want out of the guy I am looking for to marry...and I don't really have an answer...My mouth goes shut with this heavy question. And then...sometime midnight I start thinking what is it that I really want? Intelligence? smartness? character? Looks? Money? or a PACKAGE? It won't be wrong to say that Package is a thing of Bollywood, we never really get one for real.

And anyways I am no package and hence, I shouldn't really expect one. I was made to meet a guy or two and I ended up saying No. Not that those guys were not good, they were like really good, very professional, making good money, good humans (as far I could make out from those small meetings) etc etc. but the ring just didn't bell. May be, I am looking for that little kick in my intestine, the nerves of which linking to my brain would make me say Yes for that someone.

Marriage is no sport that can restart...
It's the gamble of life where you are once in, you can  never be out...
And to be in it, you got to have that real confidence, trust and assurance which is somehow missing in this unpredictable, professional World.

These Wedding bells echo in my ears...They give me sleepless nights. Can our community just RELAX??


  1. nonsense post....its a will of god, a normal human should marry .... and 5th para u only says so...there is no switch for a sucessful marriage..and parents make u study and what not..every moment is a gamble...confident people like u are not expected to misbehave like this..

  2. Thank u Anonymous...That's my opinion. And they can't be forcefully changed. And I am not saying No for marriage, I just need the time to take the right decision with my instinct

  3. I can relate to that and trust me the pressure is equally on a guy ! Phew !
    Marrying just because we have completed our share of education sounds just not right.
    It's a decision of life and hence cannot be forced !
    I liked the line
    "May be, I am looking for that little kick in my intestine, the nerves of which linking to my brain would make me say Yes for that someone."

    just about described it right

  4. a1gaurav:'s about the same for everyone. Love or Arranged, marriage is a gamble

  5. Absolutely agree with your dilemma... To choose from options is certainly a difficult task.... And to choose for lite time is like Aiweeee..... But one probable solution that might help is that first you should mentally get ready for the marriage... Unless you are not ready, you will never like any guy sitting in front of GET READY!!