Monday, May 16, 2011

Perfection is a Myth, and humans are for real

Perfection is a myth. It's an idea, an imagination, a thought or probably a deception that makes people compare it with reality. This imagination leads to expectations, and eventually to complaints and quarrels amongst our own selves and with others.

The truth remains that humans are no myth; they can struggle to reach perfection but it's simply not possible. That's because the idea of perfection is different for each individual.

The solution is acceptance. Trying to change someone before accepting is too much to ask, but accepting and changing leads to the real change. Humans are driven by emotions, work, environment they have been brought-up in, family background, education and little minute things in their daily lives. These variables are too dynamic and affect a little of a person's behaviour. But that doesn't judge a person as a whole.

Humans are capable of change and for better, provided they are not judged every second and they are freed of intense expectations.

Friday, May 6, 2011

Whats with this thing called Marriage?

Ok now it's getting too much of a hype about it in my personal life and I needed to pen it down to keep it going easy for me. Pheww...

I am done with my academics, I have had a good work life of 2 years. But now what...? The community that I belong to (the Marwari Community in India) believe in getting girls married once they complete their education. I thank my parents to have given me this bonus of working for two years, but now it seems my freedom is going to be going.

My kins say, I need to get married now. But I am like so mentally unprepared about it.

They keep asking me, what I want out of the guy I am looking for to marry...and I don't really have an answer...My mouth goes shut with this heavy question. And then...sometime midnight I start thinking what is it that I really want? Intelligence? smartness? character? Looks? Money? or a PACKAGE? It won't be wrong to say that Package is a thing of Bollywood, we never really get one for real.

And anyways I am no package and hence, I shouldn't really expect one. I was made to meet a guy or two and I ended up saying No. Not that those guys were not good, they were like really good, very professional, making good money, good humans (as far I could make out from those small meetings) etc etc. but the ring just didn't bell. May be, I am looking for that little kick in my intestine, the nerves of which linking to my brain would make me say Yes for that someone.

Marriage is no sport that can restart...
It's the gamble of life where you are once in, you can  never be out...
And to be in it, you got to have that real confidence, trust and assurance which is somehow missing in this unpredictable, professional World.

These Wedding bells echo in my ears...They give me sleepless nights. Can our community just RELAX??